A particularly common component of depression is low self-esteem or self-doubt. Often times, this energy and criticism will be directed at the self. However, it is also common for the depressed person to look to others in their life, and think of them as the problem. “If I wasn’t with so-and-so, I’d be happy.” Then, the depressed person starts to become critical of those around them, particularly their partner. As an Imago Relationship Therapist, I work with this common concern that couples bring into couple counseling. There is a clinical name for this, besides depression, Projection. Projection is when a person is incapable of looking at their own “dark side.” Instead they project their own insecurities and discontent onto the other person in the relationship. Oftentimes this is when people might leave a relationship, only to find that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.